To celebrate International Friendship Day we asked Emily Coxhead, author of the uplifting new book ‘Make Someone Happy’ to share her top tips on spreading the love…
In a world that often feels gloomy, it’s easy to feel trapped in negativity. Emily’s bright, creative journal is your inspiring reminder that small, wonderful things are happening every day, and you have the power to spread joy too. For anyone who feels overwhelmed or needs a dose of kindness, these top tips will help you bring light to your little corner of the world, and the lives of those around you.
Find what makes you happy, not what you think should make you happy (and do more of that!)
It’s easy to feel totally bombarded most days by things that should be making us happy. What we must recognise is that the world we’re living in isn’t designed to make us happy. Instead it tells us what we’re missing out on, what we should have and what will make our lives happier. Try and really focus on the things that make YOU happy and do more of that.
In the same way you don’t need to be friends with people you don’t like or those constantly feeling like a negative weight in your world, you can unfollow anyone on social media who makes you feel unhappy. Also, turning off notifications on the news apps on your phone for a little while can be a real weight lifted if it’s constantly getting you down.
Be the change you wish to see in the world
I know we hear this A LOT and I don’t even know if Gandhi actually said it, but it’s such a simple message which I think absolutely every one of us can get on board with. Be the change you wish to see in the world, from the simplest things like picking up litter or smiling at a stranger, to something as huge as setting up a charity or organisation. Be passionate about stuff and use it to yours and everybody else’s advantage
Embrace the rubbish stuff
Let’s be honest, there’s a lot of rubbish stuff in this world and it’s not always something we can get away from. In fact, sometimes the bad stuff feels almost necessary to give us a bit of balance – to remind us to be the opposite of those nasty comments, dirty looks and moments of judgement. Be encouraging, kind, a helper, a listener and all of those things combined.
Don’t give up… Or if you do, pick yourself back up
…because it’s likely nobody else will do it for you. Some of us hold on to the past so much that we can’t actually move forward and see the exciting opportunities ahead. You and the world are constantly evolving; you must allow those changes to happen to be able to grow and learn from the past, rather than holding on to negative feelings or resentment to a certain person/thing. Stop blaming others for what you’re going through; even if it’s sometimes easier to do so, rather than taking the responsibility yourself. You are the only person who can change the way you’re feeling, or more so your attitude to what you’re going through/have been through. Pain and sadness, makes you stronger and mistakes and heartbreak make you wiser, even if it doesn’t feel like it right now. Step out of your comfort zone every now and then, do something you never thought you could or would do – you might surprise yourself or end up down a different path of possibility!
WIN A COPY OF MAKE SOMEONE HAPPY
Want to get your hands on a copy of Emily’s happiness bible? We’ve got 5 copies to giveaway! Simply enter your details below for your chance to win.
Entrants must fully complete the competition instructions outlined on the Habitat Blog post to be eligible for the prize draw. The prize is to a copy of ‘Make Someone Happy’. There is no cash or prize alternative. The start date of the competition is 17:00 pm Monday 30th July 2018; the Competition closes at 12 midnight on Friday 3rd August 2018. Open to UK residents only. Employees or contractors of Habitat and 3rd parties involved in the Competition and their immediate family, operators of its brands and concessions, or anyone directly connected with Habitat will not be eligible to enter the prize draw. Entrants must be 18 years old or over. Winners will be selected at random and contacted by email. No responsibility is accepted for any entries that are incomplete, illegible, lost, delayed or are unable to be submitted due to any technical or other reason. Proof of sending of any entry will not be proof of Habitat’s receipt of that entry. Habitat reserves the right, at any time, to (i) cancel the Competition, (ii) cancel or refuse any individual’s entry and (iii) amend these terms and conditions. Habitat registered address: Saffron House, 118-124 Saffron Hill, London EC1N 8TS.